Freud was a pioneer in the field of understanding the mind. Yet most of us still believe our conscious mind is directing our life. According to Bruce Lipton, a cell biologist and well known author, over 85% of thoughts are unconscious. It gives some perspective on why change is so difficult. Your conscious self wants to improve yet the unconscious patterns are holding you back.
Gail Glanville, a successful resonance repatterning practitioner and author, has a new book called: The Goldilocks Principle: Here is an excerpt from this interesting take on our unconscious resistance to relationships:
“Hey Goldilocks! What do you know about the 3 Big Bears of Bad Relationships? Let’s open the book and read their story. Their names are: Control Bear, Deprivation Bear and Rejection Bear.
Years ago, when I first met them, I thought the Control Bear was running my life, turning me into a rebel or looking for people who were comfortably controlling or seeking to be controlled. Then I spotted the Deprivation Bear, and realized how hard it was to recognize what I really needed and trust that I could ask for help to lift my silent suffering.
But in the end, I had to acknowledge that just one swipe from the critical Rejection Bear stopped me cold, closed my heart and sent me into hiding. Or I took the opposite tack and lashed out, feeling utterly disconnected from the field of love.
So there you have them. The 3 Big Bears of Bad Relationships: Control, Deprivation and Rejection. They have a close kinship to each other. Maybe they’ve been in your life, one or all of them, for a very long time.
More than likely, they show up in your family history and generational patterns or emotional eating. You may even be keeping them close out of unconscious loyalty to your entire family. With these old and powerful Bears taking up space in your life, what chance do you have for a healthy relationship today?
That’s why the 3 Big Bears are not to be sniffed at. Or stuffed. Or played around with. And here’s why they’re so dangerous for your native Goldilocks persona. There’s actually a part of you that is comfortable with their presence and unconsciously invites them into your life, into your home and even into your heart.”
Thanks Gail for creating another tool to shift old relationship issues!