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Ardis Ozborn
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What I Do When What I Really Want Is Love…Compensation Repatterning, 26/52 challenge #14…
Children need to survive. If we feel that unconditional love is not available we must find a way to get attention to live. Without this attention from our families, whether it is positive or negative, we won’t make it. So we develop compensations to get by. It’s an unconscious attempt to receive love. It works for the most part but it only insures survival not feeling love. It’s a substitute. All compensations, no matter how successful, represents a stress response to not getting what we really want. We then superimpose this response on our present relationships. This prevents us from giving and receiving love. This repatterning invites us to live more authentically.
My overall intention is to have optimal health and well being. This means I must show up honestly and authentically in all my relationships. My compensation is a fear of vulnerability. I survive by substituting friendship in place of intimacy. I also checked for the over assertion compensation. To be loved I feel I must be in control. This is based on my childhood experiences of chaos, inconsistencies and a sense of powerlessness to do anything about my non-coherent family situation.
This was a wonderful follow up to my parental repatterning done previously. My earlier experience in this repatterning went back to age 12 when my parents separated. My belief was that love doesn’t last and it’s painful so why bother. The coherent energy that I needed was around truth: “I am loved and accepted when I tell the truth” and”I open my heart and feel safe letting people in”.
The power of recognizing my compensations is that I can interrupt my patterns before they have a chance to take over. My tendencies are still there, to go back to the familiar compensation, but I recognize it and choose not to go there. How about you? What compensations came up for you? Do you recognize that in your behavior? Were you surprised? Please leave me a note. And again, please join our 26/52 challenge and become a more empowered you in 2015!
Ardis
Posted in 26in52, General Topics
Tagged authentic, compensations, control, earlier experiences, intimacy, repatterning, vulnerability
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I Am My Mother/Father: Parental Repatterning: 26/52 Challenge #13…..
It is important for our sense of well being to identify, transform and heal our relationship with our parents. Even if we have no relationship currently or live very far away from them or they have died we are still connected deeply. My life was created from the positive charge of my fathers sperm and the negative charge of my mothers egg. This energetic combination is with me to the day I die. We cannot separate ourselves from our parents.
My repatterning focused on my father. The issues I didn’t like about him were his emotional distance, inability to discuss or acknowledge feelings, inflexibility & acting from fear. I recognized, reluctantly, that I also resonated with some of those qualities. The unmet need from my father was that he speaks to me in a positive way and listens to what I want to share. I did not perceive that my father gave me positive attention and consistent nurturing. The resulting negative belief about men is they don’t give me loving attention.
99% of my energy was involved in maintaining these unresolved issues with my father which left only 1% of my energy to have warm, loving relationships with a partner! My compensation was that I have to keep others from getting angry with me in order to have their love. No wonder intimate relationships elude me!
I shifted my negative resonance with all of that and now am able to see that my father is loving, responsible, hard working, loyal, honest and doing the best he knows to do. Now that feels much better…. Which parent did you focus on? Are you feeling more love and understanding for them now? Please leave a note here on my blog. Also remember that it’s not too late to join the challenge. Set an overall intention for what you want your 26 repatternings to focus on, work at your own pace and enjoy the transformation!
Ardis
Posted in 26in52, General Topics
Tagged energetic connection, negative belief, parents, resonance repatterning, unmet needs
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Tuning up the brain for faster download…..
I read some interesting brain research recently. Brains of older people are slow because they know so much! People don’t decline mentally with age, it just takes them longer to recall facts because they have more information in their brains, scientist believe. Much like a computer struggles as the hard drive gets full, so too, do humans take longer to access information when their brains are full.
Researchers say this slowing down process is not the same as cognitive decline. The human brain works slower in old age said Dr. Michael Ramscar, but only because we have stored more information over time. The brains of older people do not get weak. On the contrary, they simply know more…
What can we do as we age to improve the “upload” speed of our brains? Resonance repatterning sessions allow us to prune away pathways that no longer serve us: old resentments and reactions; limited beliefs and fears; painful past experiences.
The next time you are doing a session remember you are priming your brain to stay sharp and focused; deleting the files of useless information, letting go and making room to turn on the light for new& life affirming input!
Ardis
Posted in 26in52, General Topics
Tagged aging, brain decline, brain pathways, cognitive decline, ramscar, scientist
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