Journeys With Oz

I lead the way for others. My new mantra.  But not in the way that I would have chanted it a few days ago, before completing the Resonance Repatterning® Seeing Repatterning.  As a Holistic Healing Coach working with clients who are searching for their passions, are in a life transition, or wanting to “find themselves,” I would have translated “I lead the way for others” as facilitating their inner shifts with new perspectives and tools to help them center, get clear and move forward with passion.  I love doing that!  Well, now I have experienced an inner shift for myself and lead the way for others has taken on an additional meaning: living by example. Not suggesting, not urging, not cheerleading, but simply going about living my own life as passionately, freely and enthusiastically as I am able.

In the Seeing Repatterning I was jolted awake by the realization that a small part of me believed that in order to fully blossom into my Wholeness I would need to be on my own.  That unwelcome mind-blower came with the realization of how often I had noticed (mainly) women who have “come alive” after divorce or even after their spouse had died. To use the vernacular of my dear British friend, “I bloody well am not waiting for that!” And I don’t mean that in a defiant way.  I have had nothing but encouragement and support from my husband and children.  What a disservice to me and them not to continue to step into my expanded self here and now!

I must stress at this point that I am not moving from a depressed, constricted state into a taste of freedom. Been there, done that at times, those states stemming completely from my own patterns. I am now moving from a blessed, supported, and yes, fortunate state into a fuller version of me.  I lead the way for others by expressing myself freely, unapologetically, compassionately, and creatively for no one else but myself. In so doing, I show up more fully, more appealingly, more helpfully, more availably for those I love, anyone I meet, my clients and for the world. I consider that a gift to us all!

A practical application, you ask? Anytime I feel overwhelmed by “stuff” I have put on my own plate, or find myself pushing to the background those things that are rising creatively within me, I will repeat:  I lead the way for others and make my next move from that understanding.  My (our) patterns are strong and mostly unconscious.  I’m giving myself some space and time as I may fall back into those that are so well rehearsed.  This mantra and my self-session will chip away at them as I continue my repatterning challenge…

What ever will the next one uncover?!

In the introduction to the Writing Repatterning Chloe Wordsworth makes the assertion that your handwriting is your unique self-expression.

What surfaced for me in this repatterning were the limiting beliefs that writing is a struggle and that I have nothing to say that is worth reading. As a result, I fail to give my writing a high priority.

When my husband was alive, he was a fine writer himself, and he also encouraged me in my writing efforts. So I am seeing that the loss of this significant person in my life can contribute to a loss of self-confidence. There is no longer anyone handy to have a quick look at what I’ve written and to make constructive assessments along the way.

I am also seeing that he was a buffer – because he was appreciative of my efforts, I was able to keep my self-doubts at bay. Without his support, my confidence in my self-expression has faltered.

So it was very interesting to me that the essential oil blend Lady Sclareol was the oil needed to clear these old patterns. Lady Sclareol was developed primarily as a romantic perfume. Its invention came after the publication of Carolyn Mein’s book on releasing emotional patterns with essential oils, and so she does not reference this blend. However, she does discuss the effects of some of the oils used in the blend.

For example, vetiver is helpful for bringing stillness to an overactive mind. Ylang ylang has traditionally been used to restore confidence and equilibrium, and jasmine, in addition of smelling beautiful, is a great stress reliever and a good balancer of feminine energy. Bergamot and orange have a calming effect and geranium both relaxes and revitalizes.

Thus it seems to me that the wisdom of muscle checking made a good choice with the Lady Sclareol blend for restoring calmness and balance and for increasing confidence in my own self-expression through my writing.